Take it slow, brother and DON’T expect to be anywhere near normal for months…
RARP is candy coated with all these feel good phrases like ‘robotic, ‘less invasive, ‘nerve sparing’…and they’re all true! - but only
relative to the old fashioned open type which was pretty brutal.
Don’t get frustrated by how long anything is taking to get back to normal. One thing you will hear on this forum over and over again is “we are all different“. And that holds true for urinary continence and return of sexual function in spades.
Just do whatever your therapist tells you to regain your urinary continence, take the daily Cialis and use a pump to maintain the integrity of your penile tissues. That’s all you can realistically do because whatever will be will be. If after doing everything you are told and you are still no better, then there are certain procedures you might have to look into to give you some relief but that’s a long way down the road.
Just keep your eye on the ball and realize that your insides have been completely rearranged and rerouted and it’s gonna take your nerves, muscles and tissues, a while to re-acclimate themselves.
Ironically, my wife just had her hip replaced at the best orthopedic hospital in the world. They made the procedure sound like a total cakewalk. Robotic, less invasive, quicker recovery…bullshit!! Two weeks out she’s still in pain and has trouble moving her leg at all. I keep trying to explain that this is normal considering she had the head of her femur saw off and all the giant thigh muscles cut! No matter how you sugarcoat this procedure It’s not much different from being T-boned by a drunk driver or attacked by Jason from Halloween…it’s brutal!
But like you, her expectations were set very high, so now she’s more frustrated than anything. I’m finding this is all too common nowadays, the way procedures are presented to us. We think all the high tech mumbo jumbo is gonna change the actual procedure, but all it does is make the surgeons job easier and get you out of the hospital faster – that’s it! Best of luck on your recovery!
Phil