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Son estranged due to controlling spouse
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Thank you for reaching out.
I think I have convinced myself that the few attempts I made to apologize for my emotional reaction and subsequent bailing on his reception have sufficed. I was in a state of shock and embarassment. I simply reacted after assuming I'd be a party of their celebration.
I did send a birthday card ..which was the beginning of this nightmare. I also sent a joint apology and a few months later an apology directly to my d-i-l. I think that is all I am going to do. My sister convinced me that the ball is in his court now. All I can do now is live my life, find the happiness in other connections in my life, and pray that he will remember that I am not the evil villain he purports me to be.
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@zmom93 Trying to ‘move past this’ is extremely painful. I think ‘accepting’ this unfortunate event instead leaves room for the possibility of reconciliation in the future.
The most painful reality for me is that everything has changed. The easy, fun, frustrating and close relationship I had with my son has forever changed going forward. If he reconnects it will feel so much different than it was before because now I feel disposable. No mother (person) wants to feel that way in a relationship of any kind let alone with their child. I am also left wondering if what I thought was closeness between us was not that at all! Perhaps he was tolerating, or just enduring his relationship with his mother (me) until he no longer had to.
What a rollercoaster of sadness, shock and confusion we have been faced with over the way they have chosen to handle a misunderstanding.
Maybe they are feeling the same way. 🤷🏽♀️
It has been an impossible situation and I hope we both find a way to live in this limbo over what was one of the most important relationships in our lives as mothers