@rbtsch1951 I would suggest experimenting with your partner and see what works and what doesn’t. We get set in certain patterns over our lives and when circumstances change and the old patterns no longer work, we are challenged. This challenge can only be met with self care, an open mind and an understanding partner. When we are young, our ability to have an orgasm is mainly hormonal. When we age and have less or no hormones, having an orgasm is mental and emotional. This requires a paradigm shift and a change in how you experience the entire situation. I think that paying attention to the details rather than the goal is important. Start over with a beginner’s mindset and get rid of your expectations. Also, maybe try masturbating to get more familiar with your new paradigm without the pressure of a partner to relate to. Don’t think in terms of failure or success, but rather focusing on getting to know your current reality better and enjoying the process.