@heavyphil
Thanks. Actually, in full honesty, I can still perform sexually and I believe being an athlete and maintaining a training schedule is a big factor in that area but I worry about losing that ability because my radiation oncologist, a man, told me, flat out. that, post radiation I won't be able to get an erection because the process destroyed the nerves necessary for that function. He offered to prescribe Viagra because my regular oncologist is a pretty young woman and I might be shy about asking her for a drug to enhance my sexual performance.
"Ann" has been very supportive in this journey and recently we had some frank discussions about our relationship, some of which were a surprise to me. We had friends in common when we met, which can be wonderful and which can be alarming. One mutual friend, Gaila, warned"Ann" that, although I may give off the choir boy vibe (which, admittedly, I do) I had actually "Played the field" and I was hardly innocent. Until now, I didn't know she knew - I thought she thought I had gone straight from marriage to a relationship with her!
Ann did know, however, that I was just about to lock down a relationship with another woman, "Brittany" - a fair -skinned Irish beauty who, at fifty, retained the good looks of her youth - before she, Ann, ran an interference play and I dated both of them for a while - although I was only intimate with Ann. Ann traveled frequently and, when she wasn't available, I would hit the clubs with Brittany...which was really unfair to both women. Brittany should have dropped me and pursued an available man and Ann should have given me given me the classic ultimatum: Me or her. But, really, it was up to me to make the decision and I didn't. I believe in equal rights for women but, if the shoe was on the other foot - if Ann went clubbing with another man while I was out of town - I would have gone ballistic. I like women but I'll never understand them