My wife was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and I am scared

Sending you both hugs. I am so sorry you are going through this. If you have any questions or just want to talk to others who are going through similar situations, this is the place.

With little info, a diagnosis is scary. I am one who walked through my breast cancer in July of 2021 knowing that with each step done, biopsy, scan, MRI, mammogram, ultrasound, more was known. Medicine has come so far.
Please come back when you know more. We are here for you to let you know hope lives hear.

Thank you

This site has been a great source of information and comfort for me since I was diagnosed and treated last year. The cancer experience can be even scarier for loved ones than the patient. Keep thinking positive, listen to doctors and friends, welcome information, and know that you and your wife are not alone. There are lots of us out there! Cancer is very treatable for the most part these days. Take it one day at a time, and share your story with others if you feel that'll help. Accept help and friendship. Take it easy. Cancer can actually be a life changing experience, in the best possible way (odd as that may sound.) Hang in there. Sending prayers and hugs to you both. You can do this.

@engelwags thank you

Ask around for the best oncology team in your area. If you are not in a fairly large city, you may need to go a little farther to get the best treatment. And pray. I got good advice and wonderful encouragement at church, from women who had survived breast cancer. And let her know how much you love her.

Those first words, the result of testing are frightening. But you should understand there a millions of us who have heard those same words…and are still here to listen and support you every step of the way. I definitely agree it’s harder on the family support person. Take a deep breath and do all the research you can to learn what there is available to help, treat, support, share. Then follow through by internalizing that new knowledge and pay it forward when you hear about someone whose diagnosis is even newer than yours.
Hugs to you both!!

I understand and feel for you. I was diagnosed two years ago and had my surgery with the treatments. I’m not sure if it’s worst for you or for her. It was scary for all of us.
The best way I learned to cope with it is when I read books and got the information on the disease and having awareness on the ways each family member would react and respond. I learned to understand and communicate better in dealing with the family. I also got information on tests and different treatments with their risks and side effects. Being informed with what to expect made things easier to cope for all of us.
There’s also the Cancer Wellness Center. There’s free therapy for 8-10 sessions, support groups, and more resources to help both of you and the whole family. I even took my grandchild when there were service dogs at the center. We had a chance to spend time enjoying the dogs and getting comfort. There was also a child specialist available for her.
It’s quite a journey for both of you. I hope these help. Take care.

I wish you the best. I think for me the worst part was the waiting period through all the different tests they put us all through and not knowing what the outcome would be. I was afraid the stress would kill me not the breast cancer itself. My blood pressure went up so high every time I had a doctor visit to find out next steps etc. It turned out I just needed a lumpectomy which for me wasn't too bad as the tumor was less than an inch. I feel very lucky and maybe you will be also. I didn't have to have any chemo, which tests showed wouldn't have helped me anyway and I chose not to do radiation after the lumpectomy. Remember you are the one driving this boat and do what you feel comfortable with the advice you are given. Try to keep exercising and eating well and it will help you go through the surgery easier. And yes, as others say keep reading and educating yourself, so you feel empowered to follow this unfortunate journey on your terms, not your doctors.

It is scary at first. When she starts having the tests to find out the type she has and they give you the treatment plan, then it becomes a little better. I had breast cancer in 2021 and am almost to year 5.
Which in my case will mean I am cured.
If you are allowed, go with her to appointments so you will understand and know more what will go on.
Once treatment starts keep positive and enjoy friends and family.
You will both get through this. Ask questions any time. We are all here to help.
Hugs to you both.