I want to thank all of you who responded to my post. Many of your comments were very thoughtful, compassionate, and insightful, other comments offered thought-provoking questions, and some were a bit harsh that caught me by surprise. Our daughter has been married 5 years and a couple of years before the wedding we met the in-laws and arranged a few get togethers to get to know them better. Conversations became strained primarily because we had nothing in common, only the marriage of our kids. My husband I have no problem getting together when the kids are visiting them, but because it is the in-law’s home, I don’t feel comfortable suggesting it. I had hoped that the in-laws or my daughter would invite us down for a visit. That has yet to happen even when I have had those conversations with my daughter. Maybe she is appeasing her husband or maybe the in-laws don’t want us to visit…either way, she has not offered any explanation, only an apology and “maybe next time”. The phrase “unconditional love” haunts me every time I question my negative feelings when my daughter chooses to see her in-laws more often. At the end of the day, I don’t love her any less because I know that I will always be there for her when she needs me. But unconditional love doesn’t take away the hurt nor the loneliness I feel when she can’t find it in her heart to reach out to me when she is close by. What I have come to realize is that I cannot change her behavior, I will never understand it, but I can over time learn to accept it…my health and well-being depends on it! FYI…the Palm Springs trip will not be canceled; it will be another opportunity to see her and more importantly, Christmas is the perfect time to celebrate being together. Again, I am so grateful for your feedback, your comments really helped 😊