I work in a retirement/nursing home. I think it is a relief for some people to move into a facility, but it is not the solution for everyone. Can you get a home Healthcare worker? My mom and dad took care of my grandmother for years. They had a nurse come in and help (I think) once a week. But I have to add, my sister helped alot too. Somehow family is just not as important as it used to be. I hope your son wakes up to your predicament. Do you have a church family? 🙏