@justwow I concur with @jonesja This is winnable. Welcome to the Head and Neck group. You can get a lot of help here from patients who have gone through what you are going through. Myself included.
MD Anderson or Johns Hopkins are both great treatment centers. You are blessed to have these options. Now you have to wrap your head around the fact that your life focus for the next few months is to rid yourself of this cancer.
You can always start your own discussion in this group at anytime you need specific attention / answers. Please don't hesitate to do so. It often leads to more and faster responses than being on another discussion.
In the meantime, as Winston Churchill often said, "Courage." You can do this. You will be stronger for it, I promise.