This site has been a great source of information and comfort for me since I was diagnosed and treated last year. The cancer experience can be even scarier for loved ones than the patient. Keep thinking positive, listen to doctors and friends, welcome information, and know that you and your wife are not alone. There are lots of us out there! Cancer is very treatable for the most part these days. Take it one day at a time, and share your story with others if you feel that'll help. Accept help and friendship. Take it easy. Cancer can actually be a life changing experience, in the best possible way (odd as that may sound.) Hang in there. Sending prayers and hugs to you both. You can do this.