@luferfish for what it's worth my doctors practice was in Northern Virginia at Potomac Urology, Dr Lim, but I don't know that my recovery is perfect either. At times encouraging and at other times not, but i don't blame the surgeon. The damage one has done to their bladder while delaying treatment plays a big role I think. As my doctor explained your bladder has been blocked by your prostate obstruction and depending on how damaged it was your urgency and frequency will now be impacted. Even at 64 I wish I had the surgery many years earlier in hindsight, but I had a poor Utologist who never even did a cystoscopy and when I brought up surgeries said I didn't need it. He was wrong, but I didn't find that out until he retired and I sought out a new Urologist practice who promptly informed me otherwise. The way I see it now I've traded not being able to go for a little more frequency, but I was eventually going to need surgery so putting it off only hurt me. I think that's my one bit of advice to people with BPH, don't delay surgery too long, it's only going to get worse and your success post surgery will be impacted. Don't get me wrong, my surgery was pretty painless, recovery quick, I get up only once a night most nights instead of 3 or 4, improved flow, no sexual side effects other than some occasional RE and when I want to go i just go, but if I drink something I'm probably going to need to find a bathroom in a couple of hours.