@urmysunshine99

How old are you? Do you still aspire to meet someone, marry and have a family? How long were you with your recent boyfriend?

I do think therapists need to keep a healthy, professional boundary with clients. I have been to many and deal with major depression and anxiety and take medication which is helping me. Do you take medication? Does it help you?

I do think you may be expecting your therapist to be a friend rather than a professional to help you help yourself. When the therapist heard you about the holiday pajamas and pictures and then shared their own, they were sharing with you something you are aspiring to have. Rather than think it is insensitive, ask yourself why you are bothered with or jealous of what others have. You may cause people to stay at a distance from you if you act like you feel sorry for yourself and resent others for having what you don’t have. You may be requiring others not to share their feelings, joys, happiness, etc. because you don’t feel that way. That would bring others down and may cause them to avoid you. That makes it hard to have friends.

You may want to work on why you feel sorry for and negative about yourself and your life and figure out how you can work with a therapist to improve your self esteem, break the negative self perception and negative self talk about all you don’t have and turn that around to focus on what you want and work towards getting it. You may be spending more negative energy on resentment and self loathing than positive energy focused on improving your life. A therapist that is good won’t be trying to be your friend. They should be challenging you to examine your distorted thinking and set goals for yourself to work towards improving your quality of life and self perception. You, and only you, are responsible for you. You can’t expect others to care more for you than you care for yourself. I work on that daily.