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Hurt by Daughter’s Travel Plans
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is it possible that his parents are not able to visit back east and the only contact he has with them is if they come out to visit with them. instead of feeling hurt, you should feel proud that you brought up a daughter who is thoughtful enough to put her wishes aside for fairness in seeing all of you without favoritism. once a year with both sets of parents; you when you visit, her in-laws when they travel.
perhaps she didn't tell you when they were there because she was afraid of hurting your feelings.
it is not selfish to want to see her, but maybe she is just trying to balance the free time they have as a family.
it is only natural to want to see her more often.( she probably would like to see you more often), but as you said she is very busy.
if only we had all the time and money in the world...sigh.
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@samclembeau Such a wholesome way to look at this.
Not selfish wanting to see a much loved daughter more in person (not just on face time etc).
But so important to look at things standing in their daughter’s shoes.
It must be very stressful for the daughter trying to enjoy her very limited free time and being held to account how she and her husband fit their respective parents into that time and into business trips. It sounds like they do a pretty good job of making themselves available.
It hurt my heart to read people suggesting changing the Will. Goodness.
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I appreciate your response😊 In-laws transferred to Tucson due to job relocation 5 yrs ago. They are from VA and have family there so they do travel to VA 3-4 times a year to visit. So my daughter does see them often that is why I feel like she is favoring them more. Our daughter is as an outdoor enthusiast as are we…hiking, Pball, golf, etc whereas in-laws are not. More of going to sports bars and drinking something they all enjoy often while we enjoy it occasionally. We had planned on spending Christmas together in Palm Springs at our cost because she doesn’t want to spend the holiday in Phoenix. But I’m beginning to feel like they will only hang around us if we pick up the tab. So I’m seriously considering canceling the trip and enjoy Christmas staying home.