@msbjean53 My husband & I were going through the same thing you and your husband are. It was terrifying.
His aggression and agitation were out of control especially afternoons and nights. He also didn’t know who I was and wanted me to leave. We would look at photos, and he would tell me, “That’s Trisha, but YOU ARE NOT TRISHA”!
His doctors were trying to help with different medications, but it just wasn’t enough and there were so many side effects that he was unable to verbalize how he was feeling. Sometimes, it made an awful situation worse.
Medical marijuana is legal in our state and early one Sunday morning I went to a dispensary. They were so helpful with what they gave me and how much to start giving him. I have slowly increased the original amount a little at a time and now feel I have the proper dose. I either dissolve the calming gummy in his coffee or cut up the gummy into small pieces and give it to him in a small bowl of mixed nuts (I call it trail mix) in the early afternoon. He often refuses to take pills or spits them out after holding them in his mouth for a short time.
It doesn’t make him high, and it doesn’t seem to have any side effects, it just takes the edge off, and he is calmer and happier.
It’s far from perfect; there are still lots of ups and downs and awful times, but it helps more than anything else has. He was diagnosed in 2012, so we’ve been dealing with this horrible disease for a long time.
I also will add I have the blessings and interest of his doctors at Mayo Clinic.