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Sounds as though your driven parents could have triggered your ADHD, or at least made it worse. My story is similar, shared here only to let you know others of us got hammered too.
My parents were uneducated, and thought berating and beating would bring out the best in their children. Never good enough. Always stupid (national merit honor society, jr. Arista, Arista, Service award, NYC first place in journalism, all boro orchestra [violin], law school, Court Magistrate published in NY Law Journal, married 52 years, terrific kids, and beautiful grandchildren). Still berated. They are long gone now, leaving me to figure out the truth for myself, with some anger for having my authtic life stolen from me all those years. All good now. Chin up!
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@shmerdloff
Damn shame. Congrats on all your accomplishments! You should be very proud. Sorry they missed out on the joy of watching you succeed.
Do you have ADHD? Folks/kids with ADHD often struggle with low self-esteem. To pile on negative, harsh, damning words directed at the sufferer only drives home and exacerbate the pain gnawing away at our core. That pain runs deep within and often will continue to haunt us throughout the rest of our lives. It is a phenomenon common among us. We may not remember why/how it got there, but we will recognize it's there when others refer to it. Oh yea, I have that pain that never goes away.
I suspect the underlying bio-chemical-electrical malfunctioning in my brain was not impacted directly by the barrage of attacks. Coping with the shame, the torture of failing over and over, coupled with the humiliation of public exposure without an empathetic adult's help, well that is as damning as hell.