Just want to echo affirmations and gratitude for the helpful comments. I am 69 and retired. I had my prostate removed on August 26th. The past two months have been challenging because of incontinence. At times it left me dispirited, glum and prone to moments of melancholy. My primary care doctor suggested antidepressants. Reluctance to go in a pharmaceutical direction was the incentive I needed to address my mental health. I started pushing myself more physically and stopped assuming things would get better with a passive approach. Active as a runner and hiker before surgery, and unable to do either other than walk slowly 4-5 miles day since surgery, I picked up my walking pace (from 20 minute miles to 15 minute miles) after the primary doctor visit and started hiking with a friend at low elevations with minimal incline. Diaper filling though these faster walks are, they have made a huge difference to my outlook.

Incontinence persists. I was wearing five Depends diaper briefs a day until this week. I stay dry at night with a light shield. A volunteer schedule keeps me moving and leaking during the day. I wear three Depends diaper briefs when out and about (9-12pm , 12-3pm , 3-6pm ) a guard at home in the evening sitting around with my wife and as mentioned a light shield in bed. I tried the guards during the day, but I leaked outside them - black pants with a loose waist band saved me from embarrassment. After suffering from dehydration after the first month I drink about the same amount of liquid now as I did pre-surgery. I'm inconsistent with the kegels. No erections so I pop a sidenafil once in a while to try to activate the nerves.