@sarge15926 There’s no answer for you, Sarge…it’s totally normal to be anxious, nervous and fearful from ‘all of it’.
Just remind yourself of why you have to do this (family history) and how many others before - and after you - have experienced the same doubts and fears.
We all came out the other side and lived to talk about it. If you trust your surgeon and believe in his/her skills just LET GO and let them do what they are expertly trained for…Best,
Phil

@sarge15926 You will be fine. What matters is that the cancer is still organ-confined. Incontinence will be temporary. You will have ED for several months or even longer. But there are solutions to that problem too.

@sarge15926 And if you still have some time, do two things:

i) Start working with a pelvic floor physiotherapist now.

ii) See an ED specialist and start Cialis before the surgery.