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Living with someone who functions relatively well with MCI
Caregivers: Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI) & Dementia | Last Active: Jul 30 9:48am | Replies (14)Comment receiving replies
@dig2dye2: It feels like you are living my life… my husband is 32yr Sergeant Sheriff, teacher, mentor who is experiencing profound hearing loss, as well as age related memory issues. He has worn hearing aids for 18 yrs, always choosing the best ones available and is not shy asking for audiologist to adjust when he is not pleased with them. Long story short, I have learned that the hearing loss correlates directly with the mental comprehension. This may be manifesting at your house? Perhaps you can speak with his audiologist and she can make aide adjustments?
I wish I had a solution to this situation. I know how tiring it is to repeat over and over. All spontaneity is lost! Communication is the basis of our relationship, but I find myself trying new ways to be understood. He takes picture on his phone of things we need to buy - acts as a reminder in the store. We make lists of things we want to do today. There is a note on the front door saying, “keys, wallet, ?” - reminders help!
That’s all I’ve got… best to you!
dbamos1945
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@dbamos1945 good idea to post keys wallet phone on the doors for reminders when husband goes out. Thanks.
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I found your comments spot on. Our son was hearing impaired since he was born. Now my husband is and also Dx with MCI. I have used the checklist for years (when son was growing up) and it is helpful. I also take pictures of specific items to purchase if my husband goes to the grocery store and I want/need something specific. My husband was fitted for hearing aids but refuses to wear them so it is a roll of the dice as to if he will cooperate. That’s him. Still everything you wrote, in my opinion, is spot on as a way to dealing with some things.
I tried to do the 'what are your plans today or my plans for the day 'but my husband will not cooperate as a rule. I have to roll with it. He told me he thinks I’m trying to control him. Actually, I’m looking for a time when perhaps we could do something fun together and sometimes I do want to ask if he will help me.
Thanks for offering up your good suggestions. They may help others. They have worked in our home.
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@dbamos1945 thank you so much. I appreciate the kind response..