@pamela78
Pamela
It's a hard thing however you are not alone. I had the same thing: hospital, rehab to memory care. He was a danger to himself and others even if it wasn't everyday it was just too much to deal with day to day.
Do I feel peace with him in the memory care ? Well, I know he is not going to up to the attic and take the a/c apart or dismantle the breaker box. Of course all of this could be explained by him but one day it wouldn't be ok. You deserve to be happy and to enjoy the time you have left on this earth so take it. There is no time machine that's going to correct this we can only move forward and that was the agreement when we were born. It's been 5 months and I see him everyday unless I want to do something special for me.
There is no right answer. Just be here now my dear and take care and love yourself.
Sending you positive energy ✨✨✨