@mtstack Thank you so much for your response. I am praying for you as you are young and have so many years left. They told me the same thing when they removed the lymph node. I got a second opinion and my oncologist recommended a different approach, which I am considering. I understand that the doctors are more experience with cases like ours and they want a successful outcome as far as the cancer . We do too. I just can't make the decision until I have been with my two great grandchildren who I haven't seen. I don't want to put them at risk. When they told me to plan my visit as close to the next treatment that was not good enough for me. I hope you keep posting so I can support you in any way that you need. It helps sometime to talk about it to a stranger. I have already had a bad experience with the radiation Dr. I think sometimes they don't realize the fragile situation we are in and they just want to get on with it. They want snap decisions while you are trying to process what they are saying. I was told you can quit anytime during treatment too. Can I ask what chemo they are recommending for you. I hope you will get past this bump in the road. I am learning not to sign or answer on the spot so I can analyze what they are saying. One day later doesn't matter at this stage for me. many hugs not just one.