My son is 40, does not live with me. I suspected he was abusing his prescription amphetamines for awhile now. But found positive proof the last time he visited me in August. I was snooping...& didn't confront him before he left. I don't know how to proceed. He visits several times a year and we speak weekly on the phone. I spoke to him last night and he sounded fine. He is working but has isolated himself from all former friends and he had a lot. Sometimes I see some paranoia but not to the extreme. I am afraid if I bring it up he will, of course, deny it and become angry. I am afraid of becoming estranged from him. He is my only child, he's not married. Should he cut off all contact with me I know I will become very depressed. His father (my ex) lives down south and really doesn't care if he sees him or speaks with him. I most certainly do. I am flying next month to see him for his birthday...and don't want to spoil that. Then there is Christmas and he always spends it with me and my husband. I feel I am between a rock and a hard place. I was on line with Nar-anon support group for Moms and they don't give you advice. But all of them are in a different place than me. Some of the Moms don't know where their adult child is - or haven't seen them in years. They have learned "let go"...I could never cope with that. Anyone with thoughts on my situation or experience with it? Many kind thanks.