@lkbous I think you are wise to vent here on this page. It is a way to express our fears and frustrations with what dementia is doing to our loved ones. We all can understand what you are feeling and offer our support. Above all you need to take care of your physical and mental health. Taking your daughter with you to the lawyer was a good move on your part. You will need her help on this journey. My daughter has been my rock. It is so hard for us to accept that our husbands are no longer who they were and adjust our expectations of their behavior. My husband has cognitive processing issues due to his brain failure. That means that he needs more time to process what has been said. If the conversation moves too quickly for him, he is lost and may ask the same question over and over or say nothing and just not get what has been said. You are a good person, never doubt that. Your being there for your husband regardless of his negative behavior is proof of that. I have found that trying to take it one day at a time and not go down the "what if" trail has saved me much emotional pain. I just try to make it through one more day doing the best I can with what I have physically and mentally at that time and hand the rest over to God. God bless you and your husband.