I've always been what I thought was a good planner - its "black/white" sorry for the pun - its either there or not there $ and if not you do without... No the sisters/step sister has not really thanked me they are out for what they can get or feel the deserve and they have done little for there parents/grandmother the years i've been here the step-sister in my opinion has always thought she was better than all the rest. the youngest daughter has played the fiddle and made remarks about the other sister/step-sister its almost as if its a "war" between them and I am caught in the middle - below is my rant on all this