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Lung Cancer | Last Active: Sep 25 12:58pm | Replies (1044)

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@reibur1951- Good morning. OMG Can you believe these expenses? Is there a way that the family will compensate you for the car? Or is it theirs?
What kind of radiation are they planning? I had to have a form made for my SBRTs. Masks are often made for precision. There are so many!
I'm thinking of how incredible you are. You deserve an award. Have you had a chance to have any sort of break? Maybe for a spa day or even a pedicure?

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Replies to "@reibur1951- Good morning. OMG Can you believe these expenses? Is there a way that the family..."

Yes I can - NO they won't because of what his dad had me to to protect/ care for him, the son and me - son with the lung cancer does not want to go into nursing home - father did not he was not making red blood cells he died Jun 28th did not see it go through - wife/mother was in nursing home died Dec 26th it was father/son & I who cared for her went to see her. He has 2 full sisters & a step sister who can get a rats ass in hell about him - the sisters have never called to ask about him - the step sister did but her questions was "how long do they give him" ; none offered help to pay for the funerals; the youngest sister some how talked her mother into taking over her care after her dad died - all i could get out of the mother (my friend) was I did not have enough time now????? All that ran through my mind was and not said WTF - I was the one taking the father to all his drs. appointments sitting 6 to eight hours for a blood transfusion stopping to see her on way back home; goign in to see her on grocery trips, and taking the them regular dr/cardiologist visits and taking the son to Indy which started out to be every week (and the father went with us as could not leave at home alone) then done to every 3 weeks. BUT i was good enough when the mother had seizure/Acute MI to be called and go to hospital and bring the son between 1-:30 a.m. (but i later found out why the nursing home nurse insisted i be called) - she was DNR/comfort care because of all her medical problems so I was the one who sat with her ALONE 98% of the time 24/7 while she was in hospital / hospice / and back at nursing home for the 8 days.

They did not say type of radiation - may find out Thursday when go back I assume to make sure mask is right - they took him in alone this Wednesday for the fitting/simulation...

All I got to do is hang on till October when the one piece of farm land is sold and can be insured with title insurance (this was to get the father/and I out of this mobile home) & better vehicle and was to go down last fall after the "adverse possession" went through - it has everything in my name now just got to hope none throws a monkey wrench in it but if do the youngest daughter will loose her house

Been out yesterday gathering scrape I can haul off in car for extra money . as the truck is loaded down with garbage to go off to the trash hole over on the other property which the sisters husband said he would do I called its been sitting for 2 weeks now - I did get one good load with the truck before i done some clean-up here - she did offer to take the scrape off but like i told here it had to be sorted and loaded

The youngest daughters husband does come check out the car when i ask - as afraid to take it elsewhere to be worked on because of its condition - and yes I have a new/used factory warranty vehicle in mind and get rid of the car and the truck (its not in good shape either and not road worthy for long hauls)

Basically its they are pissed because father protected himself and did not live to see it - the son (who lived with his grand mother to help care for her) and me (been here since May 1994) taking care of all them... & give the youngest daughter her 5+ acres for where he house stands as the mother/grandmother would not give her the land to go with so its been sitting on the property for 20 years that's in the works the survey is made which I have to pay for besides giving them the acreage free and clear for no compensation .... the wife/son/me took care of the grandmother and in Nov. 2002 wth the father/mother we watched her die - I sat bed and held her in my arms when she wanted held... I helped delivery the one granddaughter -

The sisters both work - the one widow the other works in hospital blood lab & was an EMT; the step sister is semi-retired and loves to travel with her husband to see her and his kids... I am the fool, the scapegoat the stupid one for fully caring and being there for all of them all these years.

The youngest sister & husband (he even read the CT-scan reports while here the day checking car over and knew there was a possibility of radiation and I was taking him down for consultation and biopsy for the genomics needed extra money but they have
never called to see what is what , they never even asked us over for Easter.

Sorry for the rant. I will survive and God will provide and sorry in the end Karama will be a bitch