@rebur1951. Gosh, you and he have really gone through a lot. All I can tell you is to slow down--especially mentally and emotionally and do what is most important right now--whatever that is. Have been through similar situations in the past and learned that the more you can right now go with the flow, the better you will cope. Kind of like not swimming against a rip tide. Swim with it and you do come out better than if you fight it. Will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I'm hear because of a lobectomy in my right lower lung to remove a cancerous tumor. Mercifully it had NOT spread to lymph nodes, or surrounding tissue. There is just me and four rescue dogs now, but when I had a family, I recall ho it seemed at times the entire structure of my life was falling to pieces., but it didn't and eventually worked out okay.