Margot-I really wish that you would move closer to Stanford. I know, I know you don't want to. If you aren't happy with your "team" then your attitude will be negative and this will effect your treatments and possibly your outcome. Attitude really does make a difference. It seems as if your need for better medical attention might outweigh that of your husband's right now. He could always get another dr, if for only for the time that you need to be there. You could stay at a Ronald McDonald house or even rent a small apt. Please think about this.