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Downsizing, To Move or Not to Move? That is the Question
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@mrmj Has this family member done full-time 24/7/365 care of your Mom or another person? Do they have the knowledge to recognize when a medical situation is urgent (a UTI can become life threatening in a matter of hours)? Do they have the strength and stamina to manage this? Will they work with the rest of the family to assure the best care for Mom, or take over and push the rest of you away? How does the rest of their immediate family feel about this plan? What happens with this bargain purchase if Mom has a crisis or dies before remodeling is finished and never moves in? Will Mom accept the proposed caregiver and her own role as a tenant in the caregiver's home who cannot fire them over a dispute? What about if the caregiver isn't adequate- what happens to Mom?
What I'm saying is - involve a social worker or other elder care expert and an elder care attorney before committing to this arrangement.
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Thank you for the valid points, I appreciate it. Yes my sister with this plan has cared for my Mom 24/7 for a few months following her stroke. It was very difficult but she managed. However she's not in town, and now attempting to manage everything from long distance and with assistance from a couple of us locally. It's been rocky. We are requesting that my sister attempting this plan move here to see it through, and not expect all of us with full busy lives have to continue deal with so much if it. The house has been cleared out, and was almost sold until this plan came up. The house is a gold mine, but none of us locally have the time or desire to work on it. The caregiver that was selected, has experience working in assisted living facility, and as a caregiver to her parents. My Mom has met the tentative caregiver, and they had an interview which I hear went well. However my Mom seems to required lots of attention, emotionally, aside from the physical. My Mom plans to begin All day comprehensive therapy at a specialized rehabilitation center, in a couple weeks. My hope is for them to evaluate her, the situation and make a recommendation. A Spasticity doctor recently evaluated her and said she could possibly live at home with a caregiver, but he didn't know many details. Thanks for the advice, and more things to consider.