Nancy, I have been here lurking for a month or so but your post on losing your husband gave me the bump I needed to reply. I too lost my husband almost 8 months ago after spending almost a year in and out of the hospital with him. I was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer August 2013 and given the 6-12 months to live. My story is long but I just wanted to let you know that I am walking your steps right ahead of you. I am glad you have family and support. The fog, confusion and amount of phone calls/paper work is enough to make you crazy. Reach out to me anytime...Karen