@cindylb, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. Lung cancer and breast cancer definitely are different journeys. And it's also so different being the caregiver rather than the patient. However, I'm confident that your breast cancer experience will contribute to your caregiving skills. I've also noticed how compassionate, helpful and informative you are with others in the breast cancer group on Connect.

I know you'll get great support and information here from other lung cancer survivors. @burrkay in particular can share his caregiving experience with you.

Cindy, has your husband shared why he is resistant to getting chemotherapy treatment?

The Chemo question for my husband - My sister had Stage 4 Lung Cancer at diagnosis. Her cancer was in both lungs, had spread to her brain and her liver. She lived through four brain operations in four weeks...and survived and then my husband and I took care of her for the first six months. She had both radiation and chemo over those months and was already pretty beat up from the brain tumor. It was a difficult experience. She was given just a few months to live but made it 18 months (she was tough). Having seen that both my husband and I are reluctant to have Chemo. I think the primary concern is that Chemo kills good cells along with the bad and in her case, it was just prolonging the inevitable and it was a very tough go for her. The doctors assure us that there are newer and better therapies and drugs with Chemo but we'll have to weigh the alternatives. I'm sure many of you here have had Chemo and perhaps it's not as bad as what we've seen (which was 8 years ago). We're hopeful that there may be an alternative or we're just plain wrong about the Chemo or that radiation and a combo of immunotherapy or targeted therapy may be a more palatable option. At this point we're still trying to get to a final diagnosis and stage....but the more information I can get the more I can help my husband make this decision. He's a 'quality' vs.. 'quantity guy for sure. Thank you for your feedback and kind words.

Hi Cindy- so sorry to hear about yours and you husband’s journey with cancer.

You are right...lung cancer is complicated, and at times even the experts have a hard time getting it isolated for treatment.
HERE IS MY WIFE’s story:

I am my wife’s caregiver. She went through a multitude of tests for a period of 15-18 months in 2014/15, including many bronchoscopic proceedures, tests for GURD, and ultimately a surgical procedure called nissen fundoplication or “tummy wrap” normally done for obesity. MY WIFE WAS NOT OBESE!

My wife’s lung cancer continued to grow....until finally the pulmonologist got a really “good biopsy” with a bronchoscope that nearly killed her! She ended up on a ventilator for two days due to the pulmonologist nicking a vein which caused her to start to bleed out!

From that biopsey, the pathologist report showed a “possible adnacarcinoma”! We were then referred to a thoracic surgeon who wanted to remove the lower lobe of her right lung, still not convinced it was due to cancer! Some 18 months after her first pneumonia experience!

Long story short, with that diagnosis, I packaged up all of her records including the many scans, path reports, etc., and FedEx them to Mayo in Rochester.

Mayo received the package on Friday, and on the following Monday afternoon I received a call from Mayo informing me that my wife had a cancer that needed to come out NOW!

We journeyed to Rochester (2 days travel), the following Friday my wife had 2 lobes of her right lung removed.

She was stage 3a by the time she got to Mayo in May, 2015...opted for chemo...a year later she was restaged to stage 4 and told she needed immunotherapy, without which she woul probably die in 4-6 months.

We tried the Opdivo immunotherapy and the tumors grew even more...

The Mayo oncologist then ordered another biopsey and a genomics study in the fall of 2016...

The genomics test determined her mutation is a breast cancer mutation...thus the reason she was not responding!

My wife has been on a clinical trial drug since December, 2016 and gets infusions every tgree weeks...she has very little side effects, and a very good quality of life...playing golf, card clubs, etc..

She jokes that some people go in for an allergy shot every month...

If she had not had the chemo, she would not have qualified for The immunotherapy!

Stay positive keep your husband positive.
God bless you both...

Thank you for sharing your story and I'm sorry for all your wife and you have had to go through. I was thinking just yesterday before I read your post that science knows only so much and they do their best and are getting better but we're still the best stewards of our own bodies and health and we have to hope the doctors work WITH us to determine disease and outcomes. I'm glad you two have found something that is working to help your wife have a better, more manageable life.
I feel sometimes like I'm the only one who 'pushes' or asks questions with the medical community but I feel that we have to do that to get the best outcomes. It is do hard for anyone to advocate for themselves when they are ill however. That's where a good caregiver is so important. I'm sure your wife feels blessed to have had you in her corner throughout this. I'm encouraged by your post, so thank you!

Thanks Cindy- keep asking those questions...don’t take for granted that the doc knows all the answers, and ask your oncologist if a molecular study should be done to make sure you husband is getting the right treatment.
Today, they are discovering new cancer treatments continuously! So keep the faith!
God bless you both...