@ucla2025, your feedback on how comments affected you reminds members that words matter. We only have text on the screen to share experiences, advice, and viewpoints, without the benefit of tone of voice or body language.

Members should not frame their tips and experiences as absolutes, i.e., that someone is "wrong" or making a "wrong" choice. Please make considered choices in your words everyone and think of how they might be received 🙂 ❤️

Cancer - especially prostate cancer - involves many variables and tough decisions about treatments and more. It's a steep learning curve for the patient and caregiver. Information gathering can be overwhelming.

@ucla2025, the most important thing to remember is that the decisions are yours and your husband's along with his excellent cancer experts.

@ucla2025 Yes. I get it. But this is where you come when you want real answers. Its not an unsensitive group. You want to know what someone else has found to be their experience. Thats why you come here. My wife was diagnosed with GBM. Its a terminal cancer. There are some that survive. But its like all cancers. Maybe they caught it really early. Maybe it did not have the same DNA. Maybe the persons immune system was better. I joined a facebook site called GBM thrivers to survivors. That site only allowed positive statements. They preferred only the patient. Another site was for caretakers. Every Dr you see gives you some hope. That facebook site and the Dr's while helpful didnt change the outcome. I appreciate this site. It based much more on fact. I dont participate much with asking questions. I caught my cancer early and have had zero PSA for 6 years with no medications. I do suffer from Incontinence and ED. I have nothing much to offer. But I very much enjoy the conversations. I find something helpful daily. I would like to ask you to stay. If the comments are hurtful or sensitive then dont ask questions. You can do a search of almost anything you want to know and just read the comments.