My mantra: "He can't help it." MCI is very disorienting for the caregiver. Most of the things he can't remember are minor and it can seem unbelievable that he cannot remember simple things like the location of the dishwasher pods - under the kitchen sink - the coffee pods - above the coffee maker. I have to repeat my mantra many times a day and give myself credit when I refrain from expressing my own humanness. Right now, another mantra is "it could be worse." Sending best wishes to all of you and your loved ones.