Everyone on this forum is trying to be helpful and can only base their comments on their own personal experience, whether they are the patient or a caregiver. Just as in everyday life, some people are more direct and even prescriptive in their comments, while others are more matter of fact or even gentle. I know it is hard not to be sensitive when we are all going through such scary and uncertain times with prostate cancer, but please don't take personally the comments that seem too direct or even harsh. I have found that comments questioning a provider's advice or treatment plan based on the author's personal experience can be very helpful and can give us good questions to ask or prompt us to get better care. It helps me to take a deep breath and realize that the commenter is sincerely trying to help.