@winkus It's tough isn't it. We're our own worst critics it seems. I joined a gay men's prostate cancer support group and it's been really helpful. It's NOT a dating site by any means--just a group of supportive guys who meet online to hash things out. It's been really helpful. Since I made that post a year ago I've become less "me" focused and have just put myself out there doing volunteer work, just being friendly and not isolating myself as much as I was.

A long time friend and I started dating about eight months ago and we've worked through the awkwardness. We get around the lack of spontaneity by scheduling sex and then, a couple days before, send each other texts of what's going to happen which helps with building up some anticipation.

Also, pelvic floor physical therapy REALLY helped me get decent orgasms back again to make up for the anejaculation. It's a lot more than just Kegel exercises.