I know it's bullying, I know it's manipulative. I even told him it was manipulative when he was at the house. We told him to leave, and he said if we don't work it out this moment he will never come back - we still told him to leave and that we were willing to work it out tomorrow when everyone is calmer. He tried to come back in and yell at me and my husband had to stand in the doorway and block him and kept saying, "just go." He finally left, then called 15 minutes later screaming about suicide. I called the suicide hotline, but what could we do, noone knew where he was, so I couldn't call the police. But then he called back, sobbing and still screaming, but I talked him down till he got back to his apt. He assured me he wouldn't hurt himself that night, and he was calm so I didn't call the police, but maybe I still should have? I am going to my doctor today to ask for a referral to someone who can help me with this, I desperately want and need boundaries, but am out of my mind that it might be my fault and my boundaries that cause him to commit suicide. I promise I will get help, and I will go to NAMI. But thank you in the meantime, these messages keep me sane in a very crazy world.