I honestly give up: I dont know why people dont understand

Posted by ginnysnow @ginnysnow, Sep 13 8:02pm

I honestly just am done with a lot of things.

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Thanks for clarifying that. I think it's good that you can post here. Like some others have replied to you, I hope you can add an "for instance' example. Even a few is helpful. People obviously do care. I can relate to your couple statements as they are too.

Have felt something like that at various 'cross'streets also it's sort a like reading a book or watching a show & getting to a point where you just feel like, okee dokee, time out. Just an example. 💜

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thanks 🙂

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no, I dont

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If you have the resources (health insurance mostly) cognitive behavioral therapy might be a good avenue to pursue

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I just wanted to get what or why you feel or think that nobody understands?

I'm new here so still getting the hang of how this site works.

That's why I asked about the " Parenthesis " in an earlier comment. At 1st I thought the same person did both?

With your reply ( thank you ) the bit in the " " was yours & the other part was someone else-s. Laura, i think. ? Yikes.

Hopefully I'm now on track. Also it is tricky to understand comments since we're all likely in pain & on meds plus the good ol' everyday life stuff.

So yah, not super easy. If you can take another run at my initial ? of what part doesn't anybody understand? I'd appreciate it.

Feel free to copy/paste me a comment or comments perhaps. I missed?

Today I had 1 of 2 per wk chiro treatments. How is your day so far?

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Baby steps are a pleasant way to manage a healthy type of habit. Many small steps can also arrivd at a destunation. Extend a timeline to suit your way.
Many remember that childhood phrase about treating others how you're like to be treated. If a friend needed some support you'd likely do what you could. Treat yourself the same way. Make it fun at times. Do what you enjoy. Little things help a lot. Laugh everyday. If we're our own best friend we're giving ourselves a great start. All the best to you. ❤️ 💙 💜

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I love the laugh everyday advice. It’s wonderful advice for so many things

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If you have the resources (health insurance mostly) cognitive behavioral therapy might be a good avenue to pursue

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Could you please clarify what you are referring to?

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I just wanted to get what or why you feel or think that nobody understands?

I'm new here so still getting the hang of how this site works.

That's why I asked about the " Parenthesis " in an earlier comment. At 1st I thought the same person did both?

With your reply ( thank you ) the bit in the " " was yours & the other part was someone else-s. Laura, i think. ? Yikes.

Hopefully I'm now on track. Also it is tricky to understand comments since we're all likely in pain & on meds plus the good ol' everyday life stuff.

So yah, not super easy. If you can take another run at my initial ? of what part doesn't anybody understand? I'd appreciate it.

Feel free to copy/paste me a comment or comments perhaps. I missed?

Today I had 1 of 2 per wk chiro treatments. How is your day so far?

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It feels like nobody truly gets who I am, and the weight of it all is just too much. I'm at a point where I'm considering giving up because I don't see a way forward.

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I love the laugh everyday advice. It’s wonderful advice for so many things

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i would have to agree

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Self doubt and lack of confidence. That’s hard. Most experience it in some level at some point in there life. When it becomes persistent and limits your ability to function or to take advantage of opportunities and enjoy life, that’s really concerning. It can range from indecisiveness to feeling unworthy to feeling undeserving or worrying that others will perceive them as a fraud (imposter syndrome). I myself have had imposter syndrome at various times in my life. Learning that it had a name, defining it, really helped me.

Did these feelings first start 6-8 years ago, or does it trace back further? Possibly to childhood? If so, were there parent-child conflicts, sibling comparisons? anxiety, depression, or PTSD may also predispose persistent self doubt. People with PTSD are neurodivergent, their brain processes differently, I don’t know much about it, but that could be a factor to address.

My initial advice (these may seem daunting at first, try one thing at a time and celebrate victories):
Practice self compassion
Reflect or journal on past accomplishments
Avoid comparisons with others. Focus on your self growth
Become aware of negative self talk, challenge the truth of the negative thoughts
Cultivate healthy habits
See what you can do to create a support system. I find this website to be a source of support. It’s a start,
Break large goals into small achievable steps. Celebrate each step you accomplish
Try to be physically active each day. Again , start small.
Practice healthy living. Sleep, nutrition, etc.

Have u heard of power poses? The easiest one that comes to mind is a study I read on surgeons. If they practiced a ‘Superman’ pose for 5 minutes before surgery, they actually performed better!

There are many knowledgeable and supportive people on this website. I look forward to reading their responses.

I’ll be thinking about you.

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Thank you so very much for sharing. I learned something new! Power poses.
I found an excellent Ted Talk on the subject that might be of interest. I know it was for me.

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Could you please clarify what you are referring to?

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I referring to the response that she doesn’t have a therapist. It’s therapy is an avenue I think worth exploring if she has insurance or the resources to pay out of pocket

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Thank you so very much for sharing. I learned something new! Power poses.
I found an excellent Ted Talk on the subject that might be of interest. I know it was for me.

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I haven’t seen this TED talk. It was excellent! Thank you for sharing. I especially enjoyed the statistics.

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