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Recent Stage 4 Colon Cancer diagnosis
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My wife told me I have been short with people and mean to those around me. I am thinking to myself, well I don't really feel all that angry. However, I have a tendency to dismiss other people's problems in lieu of this garbage I am dealing with. I just don't care, I could seriously just sit in a room by myself for the rest of my life and I would be fine with it. She called me an asshole and told me she was going to divorce me. I was like, whatever man. I don't have the bandwidth to deal with your shit either.. Driving home from my first treatment today, this argument breaks out because some lady pulls out in front of me and I honk at her.. she slows down to a crawl to prove a point and sticks her arm out of her window... then she flips me off... so I pulled up next to her and blasted my horn like a 16 year old... haha my wife told me she was gonna leave me over it.. life is ridiculous and most people are too.
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@randyw2025 Your post made me very sad. People deal with a cancer diagnosis in so many different ways. It sounds like you are choosing to deliberately isolate yourself and take out your anger and frustration on everyone around you.
I have rare stage 4 appendix cancer (included in colorectal cancer) diagnosed in 2021. After major surgeries and chemo I’ve outlived my 2 year estimated prognosis and am currently NED (no evidence of disease).
Please don’t give up and push everyone away. Your current response sounds awfully lonely and awfully tough on yourself, not just on others 💔
I think looking outwards really does help deal with this horrid disease. It distracted me from my side effects and fears to be interested in other people and what they had to say. Better than living in my own head!!
I really hope you can come to terms with your diagnosis and can reach outwards and stay connected to those around you 😪
Wishing you the best.
@randyw2025
Emotional outburst is understandable but anger only makes us feel more depressed later.Isolation will make you more angry and depressed.Focus on dealing with what next. Learn to discuss the issues openly with family and friends and as time goes by everything falls in place My husband was very patient and supportive only after I confided in him about how I feel.Your wife will also do it if you confide about your fears.
All is well only if we try.All the best
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