I'm so sorry to read of your troubles jkwreath. I wish I had any thing useful I could say.

jk, have you spoken to your physician about your symptoms? I acquired my colostomy 10 years ago in a life or death cancer surgery. My first six months both mentally and physically were very hard, I will not lie. For me, I was bloated for a few months, but I had a very complicated surgery that resulted in both a colostomy and urostomy. I was told it would take months for my swelling to resolve. Are you having output from your stoma at all? Also, make sure you're staying more hydrated than you can imagine. Perhaps ask your doc if they recommend electrolytes to add to what you're drinking. A lot of water alone for some people can dilute your electrolytes. Some of us need additional electrolytes, which is an easy check with your labs. I'm sorry you're having all this cramping and bloating. It's the worst when you're trying to sleep. Let us know how it goes for you.