The idea of building an intentional circle is different than "burdening ones friends". We live half the year in a multi-aged intentional community, some year round, others seasonal. We ALL look out for one another, providing social and emotional connections, sharing meals 3-4 times weekly, and of course helping out in any kind of crisis or tough situation. Younger people tackle heavy tasks for those who cannot, older people provide support to young families when grandparents are far away. We have a no-questions-asked table of food, household supplies, etc. When someone needs a hand up it's there. Anyone with wheels provides rides as needed. And when we go "home" for the summer we stay in touch, visit and help out whenever needed.

At home, we have built a network of various friends and relatives who can call on each other - some near neighbors, some farther away. My daughters who live nearby are learning to do the same since Mom and Dad are not always on hand.

I believe Americans have to get out of the mindset that we must take care of ourselves by ourselves.