asolidrock,
I like that at some point you said that you realized that a DX doesn’t mean that everyone is EXACTLY THE SAME!
After I was DX’d and BP group therapy was recommended and I sat there listening, it didn’t take long to realize that 1 I was nothing like any of the people in this group
(“Thank God” I thought to myself) but when it was my turn to talk I simply said:” this is my first time in group and it’s obvious to me that each of us may be DX’d BP ‘ WE ARE ALL UNIQUE’ everyone in the group lets out a sound of agreement! Was the sound the same? No way! However there was a universal agreement that all of us needed help and love.
You called it “ UNCONDITIONAL LOVE “ a term that is used so often that I have always wondered is everyone on the same page about THE MEANING OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?
I sincerely don’t think so and sadly and questionably I don’t understand how come the subject of “ What exactly is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?
Think about this : in order for “ LOVE “ to be “ UNCONDITIONAL “ one needs to agree to the “ CONDITION “ to be “ UNCONDITIONAL “ and is something that is not well understood a good idea? Even more questionable are the consequence of rendering it to people who NEED STRUCTURE AND CONDITIONS?
One example SCREAMS OUT AT ME: The mother who was very well trained in the field of psychology, considered a leader in the field and held in the highest esteem in her area. She raised two sons the one that lived at home with her His name was ADAM LANZA who is dead along with his mother and 27 or so little children in an incident called SANDY HOOK!
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE didn’t seem to have the results that everyone expects from rendering it to those HB’s who need something else
I’m so sorry if I triggered or offended anyone by mention this horror story. I cry every time I think of this incident and EVERY MASS SHOOTING THAT HAPPENS