Hello rochrsalley81
Your situation is a mirror of mine for 10 years. This past 4 years i have seen more changes but he is still running his life. I do all technology , research, planning of trips, and so much more. The burdens we carry are all hidden from the world which can leave care takers feeling unseen. I no longer talk openly with most “loose friendships “. Explaining the nuances of dementia is hard for folks to grasp.
My husband forgets conversations but now he hears words i didn’t say. Like “ if you would like to go early thats fine. I can’t be ready for 30 minutes. He gets sulky and then says he’s leaving since i don’t want to go. “ it is exhausting having to explain myself over and over.
I too worry about him contacting business and giving private info to everyone. I’m ready to move to an independent living situation inside a retirement community. If one of us needs more care its there for us. We may not be able to afford it but it would make me feel safer having other folks taking care of our homes upkeep. We would have less to bicker about. 😞
He just turned 70 and im 68. We married 14 years ago and its been a hard journey. I believe I was stuck in grief and doubt for many years. I hope you can prevent that from happening to you. It will only bring bickering into your marriage which is destructive for all.
So sorry for rambling! That happens when we have no one to vent to. 😬
Bye for now,
K