This is a thoroughly depressing discussion. I am 4.5 months post-RP surgery. My urologist "claims" in his surgical procedure report that he "preserved both neuro-vascular bundles" that are necessary to achieve and maintain an erection. I do not understand how/why some men have written here over the course of several months, that they "had no problem with achieving and maintaining erections immediately after their catheter was removed." "What?" "How?"
I was a very "capable" 69-year man "pre-surgery", but now I have a big wet noodle hanging down there, that seems to show no sign or hope for the future. I take a daily Cialis that my urologist prescribed right after catheter removal, but it doesn't do anything. This is particularly frustrating, because I am newly divorced after 32 years. I was looking forward to having a satisfying sex life when I meet someone new with whom I want to take things to the bedroom. Now, I have put on the brakes to even be seeking to date someone, because I don't want to disappoint them in the bedroom. Granted, not many women over 65-70 years old are interested in sex...at least at the frequency that I would like...but I need to know that I can perform when the moment presents itself. This just kills all hope for the future. I am also pretty good looking and youthful for my age...I am constantly told that I look 10-15 years younger than I am. I attract women that much younger as well, who are obviously more sexually active and desirous. What normal, healthy woman will want a relationship with a divorced 70-year old post-prostatectomy guy who can't perform, and whose cancer is such that there is a 50% probability of it coming back within the first 5 years (I am a pT3b with EPE, surgical margins, cribriform glands, and left seminal vesicle invasion...both seminal vesicles and both vas deferens were removed with the prostate)? A 45-55 year old woman will definitely want to have sex, but it is pointless to even start an honest relationship where I need to tell them that I am "incapable" (thus far). I still have a bit of random urinary incontinence as well...I wear a diaper. How freakin' unsexy is that ?!?!? This is thoroughly depressing.