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Prostate Cancer | Last Active: Sep 2, 2025 | Replies (25)
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The way I see it we're all in this together whether gay or straight. I would hope that Drs. don't give less than appropriate and meaningful care to someone that is gay over someone that is straight.
Like I told a friend of mine just yesterday for four years it's be like a cloud hanging over my head. I had a DaVinci method removal May 5th 2025 and that cloud is more like a hazy day now. My biggest issue nowadays is I still have days of fatigue like today I really don't care to do anything for some reason. BTW: My first and only post-op PSA was < 0.1.
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| I would hope that Drs. don't give less than appropriate and meaningful care to someone that is gay over someone that is straight. |
Sadly, outside of large medical centers in big cities, a lot of doctors do. I don't think it's necessarily prejudice against gay men specifically but more of an assumption that everyone has standard vanilla PIV sexual intercourse and that other sexual practices don't exist or aren't discussed.
The reality, at least as I've experienced it, is almost everyone has some kind of kink or sexual interest that isn't quite mainstream and those are never discussed in the context of prostate cancer recovery. For example, even a super common activity like oral sex isn't discussed in the context of climacturia for those who have had surgery and certainly not if or when it's OK to have prostate stimulation after radiation.
I get that some doctors are reluctant to discuss these topics, but at the very least there could be a handout or some type of online information that helps men facing these kinds of situations.
I'm super fortunate in that my cancer center has a sexual rehabilitation program and my doctor is fully open and non-judgmental when it comes to answering ANY questions I might have. A lot of men aren't this lucky and don't feel comfortable talking to their doctors about this stuff.