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Okay, I need your responses and help with this one
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 44 minutes ago | Replies (81)Comment receiving replies
Hello. He watches violent horrible movies. I am an Empath. I don't like seeing people being killed. He also watches the westerns from the 50's,60's and 70's. No plot and no one is really acting. He is starting into Sundowners and I think he knows it partly. I just went into the bedroom to watch a Hallmark movie.
I just came in after cleaning up 5 large palm leaves. Actually longer than my height. Tons of yard debris. It was not there yesterday until the rain and wind came. I quickly got cleaned up and made his lunch. He did say "Thank you". Probably the most conversation I will have all day. He is watching the news now. I wish I could carry on a conversation with him like we used to ..but it definitely will not happen. I cannot vacumn or even do the things I need to do as the TV is more important. I eventually can persuade him. But, again thank you for caring. 🫂
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Hi, there are headphones he can wear, wireless, that will allow him to hear the TV if you are vacuuming. My Dad used them because of his hearing loss, so the TV wouldn't have to be at full volume and bother my Mom.
My husband watches westerns all day. Easy plots and the good guys always win (old westerns, wagon train, lawman, Wells Fargo) and enjoy the peace and not having to explain who our relatives are. Just need to get the headphones to work so I can have quiet too. But he is still personable and likes to get out .
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That is what I really miss. Being able to have a real intelligent conversation with him, to do things together like we used to.
That is why I liken what I feel and is going on to grieving, you pray, wish, hope, etc. that things will go back to what they were but, even though I am only at the beginning of his issues, it is all downhill from here.
Though if he continues the talk about getting a horse I am going to tell him what my Dad told me when I was 8 or 9 and was pleading for a horse. That he couldn't standing having the horse clomp around the house and up and down the stairs all day following me. That comes to mind when H starts talking about horses.