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Someone to listen and empathize to help talk through a tragedy

Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Sep 15, 2025 | Replies (23)
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I can understand that I mean I do have a part I know I was the reason well I don't know but sometimes I feel like I was the reason for her to step out but to lie compolsivly even when caught red handed only tells me that she is incapable of being honest and vulnerable she'll never be in love with me it's like I keep banging my head against the wall knowing that she's always capable of holding it in and like a rule (denied denie denie) no matter what

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shmerdloff | @shmerdloff | Sep 1, 2025

Of course, we all have our shortcomings and faults. A big part of a committed relationship, like marriage, especially with kids, is to stay in it FAITHFULLY, work on yourself and help each other. After many years you both come out better. Going out to an affair is a sideways move, not growth, just taking your same baggage to what feels like a new place. But it's not. No insight. No growth. Same old same old. Move on to a new affair. It's called a repetition compulsion.
How does she expect the children to mature properly if this is the regressed example she sets?

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