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Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 2 hours ago | Replies (79)Comment receiving replies
My beautiful wife of over 55 yrs tells me she wants to die daily because she is so frustrated with her life. She lost her license & independence, can’t cook, can’t remember where to place anything (glasses, utensils, food, etc), doesn’t remember me most days(I’m a stranger or her father or my father) but she does know our son when he shows up. I cry for her and I also don’t want to be around without her)
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All I can say is that it may get easier. My experience tells me every day is different. Every hour is different. I know my husband wants reassurance that I won't give up or leave or no longer love him because of the effects of this disease. By getting easier, I mean that many of these losses are forgotten as the disease progresses. Even conflict and irritation may lessen. Everyone's experience is different. Your partner will change. You will change too.
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It doesn’t seem fair and why us? I guess it’s just life. I do my best and have to just step back and take a deep breath. It’s a constant buildup of chaos and turmoil. I really don’t even think talking about it helps. I just feel like I’m withdrawing daily into this quiet darkness. Is it time for memory care?