@parkerbear, I am not a doctor, but I have been in your situation. I caught my wife cheating with a good friend. She tried to wave it off as if it was no big deal. I made the mistake of just letting it go. A while later we tried counseling. She could not bring herself to open up. WE talked a little and she said that she would do better. A couple of years later, she decided that she no longer desired to be married to me. We had two fairly young boys, so I tried to dissuade her. She was adamant. We ultimately divorced. I felt as if my world was coming to an end. The good news is that I met a wonderful woman three years later who loved me and my boys. We have been married for thirty-four years, enjoying a wonderful life together. I guess what I'm saying is that God always has a plan for your life. Sometimes you have to face the dark clouds to find the silver lining.