@lilyann My God, you lost daughter and son, not sure how you were able to make it through with that loss. So sorry to hear about that. Sometimes, the words of wisdom as you mentioned may not be necessary. My friends just reach out to me, sort of check in with me to see how I'm doing and then we talk about other things, The keeping in touch with me is important, I know they care. One friend from MN called me today and we just chatted about the weather. So, keep in touch with your cousin and she will appreciate it. Ed

I'm compelled to reply bc of your reference to England. I lost my dear British friend in 2023, her sister and I continued until she passed in 2024. Then this year I lost my youngest brother. Two others passed before him. My parents are gone. I lost my first husband to cancer 25 years ago. Okay that just tells you where I'm at. But my dear friend Angela had a very special way of looking at the world. Almost like childs eyes. She very rarely complained and just simply said 'get on with it'. We have no choice. Life has too much joy to waste one minute. Put one foot in front of the other. When my first husband died I was 44 years old. Always wanted to learn how to spin wool so bought a wheel and got on with it. That led me to being a weaver who loves to use up homespun yarn. When you feel down, it's okay to give in...for a while. But life is for the living!!