It’s like walking on a balance beam. It’s so hard not to correct someone who is obviously getting it wrong. My husband has Parkinson’s with dementia and delusions. He can wake up in the middle of the night and think that a person is climbing in the window or standing at the end of the bed. Look, he’s not working with a full deck any more! Rather than try to contradict him, I try to reassure him. I tell him I’ll check and then I let him know it’s okay. Once he was dreaming that we were in our boat and it was headed for the rocks. I told him that I was taking control of the wheel and I was steering the boat into the harbor and tying up at the dock and we were safe.He calmed down and went back to sleep.
I also just react occasionally and attempt to correct his misconception about something when he’s watching the news. It’s pretty useless! I have to remind myself to back off. He’s just not the person he was. This caregiving job was not something I expected to have in my late 70’s. Retirement, travel to see our children and grandchildren, enjoyable companionship after fifty years together, all gone. Thanks for listening.