I so appreciate everyone sharing their stories. So much is similar to my wife's story. An oncologist at a major university whose stock answer is 'I don't know why you have pain'; I've never seen this before.' Why are some oncologists totally lacking in empathy or understanding? Our new oncologist at another major institution is fortunately much less dogmatic. Of course nothing changes the facts-if you need a med to improve your odds facts are facts. But it's also true that support helps. Briefly looking at the literature, 20-30% of women have a lot of problems with AI's, so why did our oncologist choose to say that my wife's pain was so unusual. This forum goes a long way to help women realize that they are not oddballs. Thank you all for sharing. It has helped. Best of luck to all.