From my read, you are really getting a second opinion to Dr. Harris's opinion, since the first pulmonary doctor did not mention surgery. And that's perfectly within reason. Do what is best for you and will make you most comfortable. As Sue says go with your gut.

As far as your relationship with Dr. Harris goes since you definitely want to keep this excellent doctor on board, share with her that your style is to be thorough and since you have a pre-existing appt at NJH you plan to follow up on that. You very much appreciate her guidance and look forward to seeing her in followup. Keep it short and sweet.

No doubt there are very capable thoracic surgeons throughout the country and NJH has a consulting relationship with one of the best, Dr. Mitchell (https://www.uchealth.org/provider/john-d-mitchell-md/ ) . He has a bunch of videos on YouTube.

Good luck with your decision making.