Hello and good morning, @brendaa4boy It's nice to e-meet you here on Mayo Connect. I am sorry to read of your husband's healthcare journey. Tough for him, and caregiving is also a challenging journey all its own. I, too, am happy you found this group,

Changes during caregiving were always some of the most demanding aspects for me. It seemed there was never a groove that lasted long enough for me to feel grounded. My dad was a longtime alcoholic, and I found the AA mantra of "one day at a time" was a huge help to me. This enabled me to view each day as a separate event. At bedtime, I'd say to myself, 'Well, this day is in the books and now I need to sleep to fortify me for whatever different will come tomorrow.' It didn't always work, but I do think it helped many nights!

Throughout my early life, change was very difficult for me. Luckily, early in our marriage, my wife taught me to accept that changes in life are inevitable, should be embraced, and enjoyed.

Well, at least that helped me accept change, but caregiving changes were a whole different realm. Looking forward and never back did help me manage those many caregiving changes.

I'm here and happy to answer any questions.

Strength, Courage, & Peace